why all the pretense?

when you go somewhere and see someone you haven't seen in a long time (for whatever reason), how do you catch up? do you ask how he/she is doing? of course you do. but do you mean it? are you asking someone how he/she is because you actually want to know?

what if he/she asks you back? will you tell the story or hide behind a catch-all? will you say, "you know it's been a long week, but i'm glad to have been so productive?" or will you say "everything's great!" and leave it at that?

i'm not saying that you two have to go back into your entire life stories or go down paths that might be inappropriate or unsavory. i'm not saying that you want to say it or he/she wants to hear it (and vice versa).

but what does "everything is great!" get you? it tells the other person to either back off and stop the interrogation or that you have an absolute perfect world...and most likely that the other person doesn't. so what do you say when someone says they have a great/near-perfect life? you say the same thing back, for how could you say anything else? you can't just hear that and answer with "wow you're lucky, my life sucks..."

awkward.

i understand that not every conversation has to be a long-winded one...yes even long-winded me. but if you have a past relationship at all and possibly a future relationship, doesn't the conversation deserve a little bit more than the creepy man on the elevator?

just think about it.

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