one year ago today...

september 28, 2012 ...


...was a big day. it was the day i said yes to mason. it was the day i said goodbye to my mom and dad (spiritually but not physically--not at all, i see them like twice a week or more :) ).

it wasn't the day i felt like a princess--though i felt beautiful--i felt more loved than regal. it felt more like a killer birthday party with my closest friends than a time for me to sit on the throne and look down on everyone else.

my sister and momma looked absolutely stunning. my dad and my brother looked handsome. and my husband.....wow. he looked like a cupcake :) in his chocolate brown suit.

check out the video---and notice the music: arranged by my grandpa ronn & the guitar solo written and played by my daddy. :)


                        
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a year ago today, my life as mrs. revelette began. my life as a wife began. and i thought i had it all figured out before i said "i do". i thought i knew what it would be like...but until it happened, until i actually lived out 365 days of being a mrs., i was totally in the dark.

i'm here to say that if you are on the fence of whether or not you want to give your heart to someone here on earth (assuming you have given it spiritually to the One above), find that man and say yes. it is fun in a way that is hard to explain. it is wonderful. it is fulfilling. it is tough and difficult and sometimes it's so tough you want to just close your eyes...but then you open them, and  you see how worth it.

the first year of marriage is tough because you are meshing two worlds, two ways, two families, two sets of viewpoints, two everything (and we grew up 5 minutes apart). you can't know your boyfriend enough until you get married. things change, and hopefully for the better.

our relationship has deepened in just 365 days, for the better. i love him more than i did last year. and it's not the kind that you always look at and think...how could you still get so giddy? you're not a newlywed anymore. no, you're not after a year (maybe relatively speaking you are, but not new new). but you have now added that appreciation, understanding, supreme honesty, hurdles, and trust (even more than you dreamed) to sit on top of the feelings of bliss you had on that wedding day. puppy love finally turns the corner to what great marriages are made of.

and mase? i think we're on the right track.



         MY wiSH foR You:           

this might seem weird to some, but if you are a newlywed or soon to be, i don't wish you pure happiness in your first year. i wish you troubled nights and long conversations--some more uncomfortable than others. i wish you anguish and frustration and wonder. i wish you arguments. i wish you yelling contests. why? because you will get through them. because if you do get through them, you know you're willing to put some effort into what is supposed to be "forever". because it's easier to fight and learn when you don't have as much at stake...do it early, because you will. mark my words. you will fight and get super angry at your spouse, but it's how you deal with it, how you get through it. if you run from difficulty, it will find you. don't be fooled by what people call "happiness". you need to make it through the maze before you can get started on phase #2: kids!--and NO i'm not in phase #2 yet.  :)